A couple of years ago I was shocked when the first person the street said “Excuse me Mam” vs. “Excuse me Miss”. I was like OMG am I getting old? I guess since I am rounding 30 the answer is YES! By the time my parents were my age they were married about 7 years and already had 1 child… but me, I still sleep in till 11 on weekends and party till late…so when will I consider myself a grown up?
The other day I was talking to a friend and she was telling a story about how someone was acting all crazy and inappropriate. My question to her was “were there any adults around?” What a silly question! I caught myself and laughed. My friends and I are still a bunch of ’ sometimes. Does that continue into “adulthood”? My parents friends always knew how to have a good time and I always had fun watching them enjoy themselves when I was growing up. So if I have my say I think we’ll still be delinquents in the future.
Another thing I think about regularly is that I still call my parents and my husbands parent’s friends Mr and Mrs so and so. It wouldn’t be weird except I actually hang out and party with these people. But I feel wierd calling them by their first name! When do I change that? Do I just start doing it?
So here is what I am thinking…the answer is…When I have a child. I think that is a big step. When I have to put someone elses wants and needs over my own, and when my choices directly affect that little being. I also think that being called Mrs. (Last name) will make me feel older. I sometimes don’t even feel like my married name is really my last name because I don’t hear it very often.
I’d like to say I’ll consider myself a grown up when I host my own holiday…but I don’t think that will happen for a very long time. My husband and I still enjoy spending holiday’s at our parents home. I’d also like to say that I will consider myself a grown up when I can make big decisions without consulting my parents and again I don’t think that will EVER happen. My husband and I both respect that our parents have much more experience doing things than we do…so why not take the advice?
Who knows when I will actually FEEL like a grown up….for now I can enjoy being my delinquent self. Do you FEEL like a grown up??
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Kids definitely change the scope of adulthood in so many ways. I get called ‘Mrs’ now that Leah is in kindergarten and it throws me off. I stop and think “HUH? Who? Me?” lol I’ve learned that being an adult doesn’t mean you cannot have a good time or let loose, just means you can’t do it as often…or more so, you choose not to do it as often. You realize there are consequences that you just didn’t care about before. Other things become a priority.
We started our family years before our friends were even out of their parents’ houses, let alone in marriages. It was a difficult transition to make at times with having to be an ‘adult’ and not being out and about with friends.
Now we are on baby #2 and everyone else is getting married and starting/planning their families and I am enjoying it a bit more than I did the first time around.
I feel the same way about not hearing my married name – I’m hardly ever called Mrs. So and So.
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I feel the same way about not hearing my married name – I’m hardly ever called Mrs. So and So.
I think you hear it more when a kid is in school….at least that’s what I am told!