Our townhouse has 2 bedrooms. The first is obviously our master bedroom, and the second, up until now, has been used as a guest room. Wait…that’s not entirely true. Yes, it is a guest room, but the majority of the time that room is set aside as a wonderful place where either The Captain or myself can go to if one of us can’t sleep. It is a great room to have actually. There are many nights where he would snore so loud that I would just focus on it…and therefore lie awake. What’s the cure for that?? Our second bedroom! Some nights he would go to bed late and not want to wake me…where would he go?? Our second bedroom! It really is wonderful. The only problem is, that soon this bed will be out of that room to make room for baby, and soon, we lose our special sleep haven. But for now, we have it squeezed in our nursery. Why you ask? Well these days we have unfortunately been using that bed more and more. These days The Captain and I are sleeping apart.
Don’t fret. We aren’t fighting or anything. We both just like our sleep so much that it’s worth it. I don’t sleep so well these days, and get up to pee about 3 times a night. Not to mention the restless leg syndrome that has reared it’s ugly head. When this happens, I just go sleep in the other room rather than bother The Captain with my constant tossing and turning. The other problem that has started (and Captain Awesome LOVES to tell me this) is the awful habit of snoring. I can’t help it! With the extra weight, and my clogged nose, how could I not snore? Personally, I don’t think The Captain should say much about it since I’ve had to listen to him snore for 10 years…but I do see how it’s a HUGE annoyance. So when I am snoring he goes to the other bed. And recently this is more often than not.
Did you know that reports are claiming that 1 in 4 married couples are now sleeping in separate beds? It turns out that it’s a pretty hot topic right now and was even discussed on Oprah. Personally, I know a lot of men in my life that sleep in another room. This includes my father. I honestly don’t think it’s that odd. The Captain and I have different sleep habits. I go to bed a few hours before him. He likes the TV on to fall asleep and I don’t. We normally grin and bare it but is it necessary? People say it ruins intimacy, I say that we both have been getting wonderful nights sleep! Maybe Lucy and Desi had the right idea!!
Once little Pooh Bear arrives we lose this second room all together, and will then resume to sharing a bed. Normally, I panic when we have a house guest because I have nowhere to go if I can’t sleep, but I figure that I will be have MANY sleepless nights with this little guy so it won’t really matter. What I do know is that I will miss that happy bed. It has served us well for a while now. Don’t worry, I am sure it will be back in our future home!
So what are your sleep habits? Do you ever sleep apart from your spouse? Do you go to bed at the same time?
We sleep in the same bed, but J likes the TV on and I don’t. Last Christmas I got him some of those ear phones that hook up to the TV so he can watch it but I don’t have to hear it. I’ve gotten used to it. I too go to bed earlier than he and get up earlier than he. I hear ya sister! Good luck with the sleeping…take it now, I hear it will disappear once Pooh Bear shows up.
For us I would go to bed first…turn the tv on (keep on mute) and set the sleep button. He would come in and then watch it. If I was fully asleep I wouldn’t hear anything, but it’s always hit or miss.
I think my sleep will be disappearing too once Pooh bear arrives! lol
How funny that your first 2 comments are from Niki/Nikki! Anyway, I just clicked over from Musings of a Housewife. Congrats on your pending arrival!
Thanks for stopping over!!! And thanks for the congrats! we are very excited!
DH likes to fall asleep with the tv and I don’t. (I’m seeing a pattern here!) Between the tv and a restless dog I started wearing ear plugs, it really does help. Though wouldn’t really be too ideal with a baby. I would still be able to hear loud noises but not fusing.
When the baby is born I plan on sleeping in the spare bedroom with the baby since DH will still be going to work. Considering he can’t really help except for diaper changes, I figured one of us should get a good night’s sleep. Once I go back to work and he stays home that might actually switch. Really just depends on how much our 3 month old get’s up. Though by that time I will be pumping anyways and he can always just wake up for the feeding; assuming I don’t NEED to BF.
Yes it does seem like a pattern! lol Sounds like a good plan for you! So you will keep a bed in the baby’s room? I’m still considering keeping ours..I go back and forth!
I had heard about that statistic about couples sleeping in separate rooms because of just the habits you describe.
Hubs and me always sleep in the same bed, except when one of us is VERY sick and then it’s just not fun to be near someone else. But it’s the exception and not the rule.
But I don’t think it’s that weird, if it works for you! Sleep is an important thing after all.
Before pregnancy we would MOST of the time sleep together…now, lol not so much! lol Like you said getting a good night sleep is very important!
The extra bed seems to be so important in keeping the peace at your house. Are you sure there is no way to incorporate it into the nursery somehow? Or maybe downgrade from a full bed to a daybed? It may be nice to have somewhere to crash during those long nights with the baby.
I have been thinking about this alot. Right now the bed fits in the nursery…Part of me wants to keep it there..the other part says to make that room JUST a nursery. I keep going back and forth. ? I can’t make decisions these days!
I sleep in the same bed with Brian (my husband), and I actually am so used to it, that it is hard for me to get to sleep when he’s not there. I never thought I’d be that type of a person, but it’s true. He’s all warm and doesn’t move at all when he sleeps, so he’s easy to share a bed with I guess. On another note, I am so not opposed to each having our own twin in the same room. Especially if he or I were tosser/turners in bad…oh boy, I’m a total rambling rose with this comment. I don’t even think I’m making a point….anyway, good topic! ?
In bed The Captain and I stay on our respective sides. Funny thing is that I can’t sleep if he’s not home…but if he’s not in the bed but I know he’s home I can get to sleep.
My parents sleep in different rooms for the last few years and are very content with it. My dad has bad sleep apnea and has a sleep machine, so therefore it is much easier for him to sleep in the other bedroom.
I agree with Jenny J. I find it so hard to sleep when my hubby is not with me. We have never slept in separate rooms when he is home/around. I don’t know what it is but I can’t sleep when he is not there. However, he doesn’t snore:)
And your such a deep sleeper! lol but i think it’s great that you always sleep together ?
My husband and I sleep apart more nights than night. He snores and I am a VERY light sleeper & have a very difficult time falling to sleep. So sleeping apart is just necessary sometimes, for one or both of us to get a good nights rest. When we lived in an apt. our spare bed was the couch, and it sucked. It is nice to now have a spare bed for these hard nights. Maybe once the baby comes, you will be so exhausted you will be able to sleep through his snoring? ? I like the other’s suggestion of maybe a daybed or twin bed in the nursery. However, once the baby is older I don’t think sleeping in the same room will work. I would imagine at the right age, if a child knows someone else is sleeping the room with them, they’d be more likely to demand attention.
Best of luck Jen… can’t wait for Pooh Bear’s arrival for you!
Oh good! you guys sound like us! lol I had the same thought as you about keeping the bed in there…there is no way a baby will sleep once he is older if I was in that room..I don’t want to get used to it. Maybe just for the first few months while he’s in the bassinet?
Hubby told me I snored too and I didn’t want to believe it!! I guess losing sleep is just another way for our body to get us prepared for the days ahead!!
A couple things. First, if your hubby snores loudly at your age, you chould have that checked out. He might have sleep apnea, which is easily treated and he could feel sooo much more well rested. Plus his snoring could be helped. Second, we used to sleep in seperate beds sometimes because we are both light sleepers and noise and movement bother us. We solved this by getting a 2 extra long twin beds and pushing them together. Then we used a sheepskin bed joiner and king sized sheets to make it loop exactly like a king bed. However, there is no shared movement so no waking each other up! Totally solved a lot of problems. Second, I got a good noise machine (I like the Brookstone one) and run it on my bedside table. It blocks out a lot of noise and is soothing. Hope this helps, and if not there is no shame in being seperate sometimes!
I think it’s a bunch of things that makes him snore..when he lost a few lbs for the wedding it stopped! lol think the snoring problem these days is more ME! yikes! Movement was never really our problem, but I can see where 2 beds would work. I tried a noise machine once and couldn’t fall asleep ? for some reason I focused on that and couldn’t stop (I tried the brookstone one also) I guess for now our separate beds can work till the baby comes!
We are very similar, but it’s usually my husband going to sleep in the other room because of my snoring! While we don”t actually have a crib in the nursery/guestroom yet, we’ve measured and it will fit, so we plan to leave the bed in there.