I never in my wildest dreams thought I’d ever be the type of girl that wanted nights to herself. As a matter fact, through most of my 9 year relationship with The Captain I hated when he would leave me. But now..as we reach our almost 2 year wedding anniversary I find myself just wishing for nights that I can just lay on the couch..a great glass of wine in my hand..and my dog curled up in my legs. Just a time when I think about me and nothing else other than the lives of the characters on screen. Sometimes, a girl just needs some ME time.
If you told 22 year old Jen, that someday 29 year old Jen would sometimes prefer for her husband to go out without her just so she could sit home in her pajamas and bathrobe, watch television and go to bed early I doubt she would believe you. It doesn’t take much to make me happy. Some women need manicures, pedicures, massages or shopping trips to count as ME time…but not me! (although that is sometimes nice) I am just as happy at home, and prefer my couch!
I am one of the luckiest women in the world that I get to spend so much time with my husband. He comes home to spend lunch with me almost every day, we eat dinner together every night, we compromise and watch the same TV shows at night, and enjoy many of the same activities so our weekends are spent together. I would never ever trade any of that in for the world. He is my best friend, and I wouldn’t have that any other way. BUT….all this togetherness sometimes makes those times that I get to myself that much sweeter!
As I write this I am enjoying one of these nights. And as I did, I realized that once my dream of becoming a mom comes true I can’t imagine nights like this again. Even if I am lucky enough to grab a few minutes to myself, I would think that no matter what, my thoughts will always drift away to that little child that is asleep upstairs. Will ME time ever be the same again? Trust me, I would trade in all my ME time for that chance, but it’s weird to think how much it will change.
But all in all I have found that I am able to enjoy this time by myself. Maybe that means I’m growing up? Would I ever go to a movie myself? Let’s not get ahead of yourself! I could never do that, but I will admit that I am learning to at least enjoy some nights alone. Do I want to many?? No way! I still love my man to be home with me most of the time…but sometimes if you ask me what a perfect night looks like to me, I will tell you it’s home by myself on my couch! And I might as well enjoy it now, because I am reminded regularly to enjoy it while it lasts!
I don’t know if its because I have been in a long distance relationship with my husband for the first eight years that we got married…but I still don’t want to be away from him after four years! With that being said….girl time is ESSENTIAL for sanity!
I was like that for a REALLy long time..and still am a lot of the time, but now I am finding my alone time more and more valuble!
i know what you mean…i miss those days sometimes too…but not enough to trade 🙂
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Thank you for stopping by!!! I can imagine that you wouldn’t trade 😉 I am sure I wouldn’t either!
I absolutely need me time. Which I rarely get. But my hubby can sense it. because I get very touchy and irritable. It is hard when you get older and there are so many demands. It is so therapeutic to just sit son the couch and veg out.
I hate when comment love doesn’t work! 🙁 boo I can only imagine that it’s only going to get harder and harder…I’m ready for that, but for now I will take what I can get!
I totally understand ME time! I desire ME time all the time, haha. It works out well with my husband and I because he likes to play video games for hours on end, so I can chill in my PJs on the couch catching up on my favorite TV shows (of which there are a lot). Though Seth doesn’t really like the same TV as me, so he can’t always partake, haha.
My husband loves video games too, but the system is set up where our DVR is…I told him in our next house we are moving his video games to another room! lol
I don’t get very many “me” evenings – but recently encouraged the hubs to meet up with some friends after work and it hit me how much I really enjoy having a night to myself once in awhile. I think once kids come around, “me” time will be me leaving the kids at home so I can go to the store or run errands by myself, or staying at home while the hubs take them.
It just reaffirms my belief that we have to have those nights to regroup so that we can be awesome wives/moms.
I totally agree with you. Soon I will be excited to run to the grocery store just to get out! lol for now I am like “please go play poker with friends!” lol
I completely agree. My boyfriend is my best friend and we do nearly everything together. BUT he works later than I do in the evenings so I get an hour or so after the kids go to bed until he gets home. That’s MY hour every night to just be by myself. I look forward to that time.
That sounds great! just some time to veg and relax! Sounds like a nice time of the day!
you’re lucky. i wrote about having a me-time a week ago. the hubby read it, and i think he took offense. dufus.
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hahahaha thats funny! Maybe mine will too! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!
I can SO relate Jen. My DH is such a home body that I find when he tells me that so and so called and wants to go out for a guys night – I’m practically yell ‘GO!’. I love that time every once in a while where I have our house to myself. Nine years ago when we started dating 23 year old me would never have dreamt wanting that space but now 32 year old me doesn’t mind at all. I think it is our ‘grown-up’ selves that have grown into the comfort zone of not feeling like we need to CONSTANTLY be with our guy. Enjoy your me time!
hahaha I have been doing the same thing…see old Jen used to get sad when my husband was going out w/out me…so he has to get used to NEW Jen who is like “Please just leave me at home by myself!” I too think its our “grown up selves” I kind of like 29 year old Jen 🙂
Love your blog! I just had my 1st me time this weekend. I must say it was nice! I watched all the “girly” movies I knew he would avoid. LOL!
First one?? wow! lol Any good girly movies? I love doing that too. I watched “Julie and Julia” the last time I did my own movie night..oh and of course New Moon (my favorite!)
ME time was the main reason we picked the house we now rent: it had a room for his office at one end and a (big) room for my studio at the other. We eat dinner together each night, have Friday nights as date night, spend a lot of time together but we also each have our own spaces that we spend a lot of time in each day just to be ourselves.
That sounds great! Its always nice to have your own space sometimes! 🙂
I think “me time” is important to keep any relationship healthy. We all just need that time to be re-charge and not worry about anyone else, and it makes it that much more fun when you do spend time with your hubby 🙂
I agree! Just worrying about yourself for a bit is necessary!
Me time still exists when you are a mommy!!! The cat is out of the bag lol. Although, yes there is less of it. We’re lucky Olivia goes to bed 6/6:30 every night and after that it’s MEEE time (well, after washing bottles, baby laundry, cleaning the disaster from the day lol). And, Mike works a lot as you know at night so I too love the me time (nothing like the couch and some good reality TV or 90210 for me lol). And, an added bonus to look forward to? Many quick sneak peaks at your precious little one sleeping….
ahhhh but is it really ME time when you are sneaking peaks?? lol That’s what I am saying..no matter what when you are a mom that little has to be somewhere in your head…right now, when I have ME time the only thing in my head is me and my shows!
Alone time is the best … and sometimes a glass- I mean 2 or 3- of wine to ga along with nothin else is divine! Followin now from Connect MEme Monday- stop by my place when you can! Oh, and I LOVE your button … I haven’t really takin any for my spot but I just might have to grab yours 😉
I think it’s a given that it’s 2 or 3…lol Thanks for visiting!!! I will definitely visit yours!
You cherish ME time a lot more when you have a baby. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my baby and spending all my time with her but sometimes I need a minute to sit on the couch and do nothing! I’m glad you got your ME time and enjoyed!
My me time happens few & far in between but I do appreciate it when I get it. Though I find it difficult when I do get some time to myself to just relax and not get to the 100 chores/to do list.
As for the movies thing…I like going to the movies by myself. lol.
I know how you feel. I love love love spending time with my hubby. He comes home for lunch sometimes, hasn’t been working at night so we spend time together then, and on weekends! I love it! But sometimes I just need to be alone! I watch my shows, read, or just listen to music while I’m blogging. Its nice. Not all the time, but sometimes!