When I started this blog my goal was to talk about my life after being married. I really wanted to be a good wife, and I was excited to take care of my husband and my home. Although I was never the “cleanest” homemaker per say, and have tried to be a cook, I think I did a good job of keeping my marriage strong. The Captain and I went on dates, and spent a lot of alone time together. Fast forward 3 years, and now we have our pride and joy child. This wonderful little boy takes up my time and my energy, and I am beginning to see what people mean when they say that you really have to “work” on your marriage when there is children involved.
Most every waking minute of my day is spent with my son. I love it and I wouldn’t trade that in for the world. He is a busy little boy, so from the moment he wakes up to the moment he goes to bed, we are on the move. That means that when he does finally go to bed at night I am exhausted. All I want to do is curl up on the couch and relax and reset. The Captain is tired too from his long days, so the both of us crash on the couches and zone out. That isn’t really a formula for romance.
My mother in law is always generous and will watch our son whenever we ask, but it has seemed that our summer is so busy that when we do go out it’s normally in a group setting. Unfortunately “date night” has had to be put on hold, and our time to connect has been limited.
It’s not that Captain Awesome and I don’t spend time together. On the contrary actually. He comes home for lunch almost every day, and we eat dinner together every night. But quantity doesn’t always equal quality time.
A strong marriage is extremely important. I know that. We have a strong marriage, but I can see where it is difficult to connect as husband and wife when you have a child. My role as mom overshadows my role of wife right now, and I always believed I’d be able to balance the two better.
Tomorrow night Captain Awesome and I will be going into Manhattan to see “Rock of Ages” on Broadway and will have a nice romantic dinner for two. It will be a much needed night out together. I have to focus more on the balance between wife and mother. .Both roles are extremely important in making this family the wonderful entity it is.