Recently, Captain Awesome has found himself reminding me how I “used to be cool”. The comment comes up if I want to stay in, or if I am even more picky than usual about what I eat. I must admit it hurts to hear…but the truth hurts right?
Let’s face it, we all used to be that much cooler in our younger days. Right? I mean who wasn’t the coolest person ever at 20? Even when I thought I was slowing down at 25, looking back I must admit I still knew how to have a good time. Now, being pregnant the “cool factor” has seemed to drop dangerously low, and I know it’s all totally worth it, but sometimes…I do miss it. Just the other night a group of my friends decided to go out to a bar. Time kept on ticking on, and next I knew it was 10:00 and they hadn’t gone out yet. I just couldn’t go! My bed called me and I knew that standing in a bar just wouldn’t be my scene. (I make the worst sober bar goer EVER!) So as they all piled into cars to go out, I drove myself home.
I must say I have lived a good party lifestyle for a good part of my 20’s. I certainly knew/know how to have a good time…but as time goes on those times are few and far between. When was the last time I partied like a rock star?? Looking back I’d say it was at my friends bachelorette party in March. That was the last horrah before the pregnancy.
But it’s ok that I used to be much cooler. Hopefully The Captain doesn’t miss the college party girl he fell in love with too much…she’s turned into a homebody mother to be. And you know what? That sounds just perfect to me.
You are cool and will be the coolest mom around!
Thanks hun! lol ?
i left my sister in law’s bachelorette party on saturday night because they ended up at this thumping music crowded bar-trying-to-be-a-club. i couldn’t handle it-and i’m not pregnant and could have been drinking (i wasn’t). and i’m younger than my sister in law and many of her friends! i honestly feel there’s a very fine line between ‘cool’ and ‘stupid’-and so i’m content to stay WAY far away from that line…on the ‘uncool’ side!
Ya..I guess sometimes I think I should “want to want” to do things but when I get there I realize I just don’t! But I do miss relaxing with my wine..or being able to stay up past 11! lol
He sounds like Vin-Vinny is always saying “Remember when we were cool?” But times change and soon enough we will be going out while our little ones are at home with babysitters. Our nights then will be truly cherished and appreciated more than ever!!
Yup! we’ll find new ways to be cool! ?
This past weekend, we had family in town to visit. Well, my husband ended up working late on Saturday, so by the time everyone ate dinner and I got the kids to bed it was after 9:30. I barely wanted to leave! Our visitors made us go out since we rarely have the opportunity, and we did enjoy it once we went. But usually, our “going out” has been traded for some wine dates after the kids are in bed, etc. An adjustment, for sure, but life is much more fun this way!
Plus, with a new baby, you’ll get to party at 3 am anyway ?
It’s hard to go out the later it gets huh?? But like you said normally once you motivate you end up having a good time. What we do for company! lol
It’s not like you’ll never go out on the town again. You’ve got a long life of fun ahead of you, both with and without the kiddies! ?
The mom cool is so much better than rockstar party cool in my opinion!
you and the captain will have to find a medium between the madonna , whore complex. its something that you will work out together and when pooh bear comes he will be the total focus for the rest of your life. its a good thing, your father and i have enjoyed it for 30 years.
It’s crazy because I was never cool. Not once. I’ve always been a homebody and hermit. But after having Abbi, it’s like something clicked over in me and I found a way to have “adult fun”. Dinner parties, the occasional girls’ night out, and even a girls’ weekend out spent with my favorite women. You’re just going to have to redefine the meaning of cool. Because the definition of “cool” changes as we age. Think about it…the type of “cool” you were at 10 was not the kind of “cool” you wanted to be at 15. And the type of “cool” you were at 15 was DEFINITELY not the type of “cool” you were at 21. The definition changes and life changes and you just have to remind yourself that when you’re left out of the good times.
I don’t even care anymore. I’m pregnant and I know I don’t look like my old early 20s-year-old self. I just feel so lucky to be pregnant that my priorities have shifted big time. I’m still exercising regularly, eating healthy, and scoping out cute maternity lines, but it’s not where I get my personal value anymore. That feels a lot different-and a lot better!
I used to be cool too. I’m not pregnant yet, but I’m pretty sure I’m getting less cool as I get older as well. ?