I have been with my husband for almost 9 years (nine years this March), living together for most of those 9 years (Yes I know that’s a sin) , and married for over a year and a half. We bought the house we currently live in 1 year before we actually said “I do”, so when it was time for us to come home after the honeymoon and begin our lives as man and wife, I found that things weren’t really much different then they were before. That’s right, I said it…they were pretty much the same. We jumped back into our lives, and back into our routines. As the time started to come when we wanted to have children, I began to think about what in our lives will change once there is a child involved. How will our relationship change? Have I done all I have wanted to do? And as I thought about all of these things, I am happy to report that I believe I have lived my childless years to the fullest.
Last January The Captain and I decided that we would take a trip to the Dominican to celebrate what we thought would be the last all inclusive vacation as a childless couple. We wanted to kick back and relax one more time before I was preggers and couldn’t drink for 9 months and beyond (since I want to breast feed). As it turns out I think we will be taking another one of those trips this year, but that’s besides the point. The point is, that I think that people who are looking in the not to distant future to have a baby, should take advantage of this time to just enjoy each other as husband and wife.
First lets talk about the bigger stuff. Things like vacations and partying till all hours of the night. I mean think about it. Vacations become a lot more involved when a baby or child is involved. If anything you would take a different type of vacation. I know Captain Awesome and I don’t plan on going all inclusive and and taking mama jauana shots all day long when we have a little one to take care of. And the going out thing?? I can only imagine how much more difficult it would be to be to handle a crying baby if I have a splitting hangover headache.
How about around the home? Currently on a weekend when there is nothing for me to do I will sleep till around 10:00 and The Captain can sleep till about noon. Do I think this will EVER happen again when we have children?? No way! Actually, if you ask me what I will miss the most when I have a baby the answer would be to lose the ability to sleep till whenever I want. It’s true! And how about sexy alone husband and wife time?? I am pretty positive that becomes a little more difficult when there are kids. Am I wrong?
So my point is this married ladies of the childless years…try to enjoy life as much as you can. I am sure there are those of you out there that are like me that WANT a child more than anything else in the world, and that WANT has consumed you, but every once in a while step back and enjoy being married. Enjoy being husband and wife, and take advantage of the life that you have now at this moment.
“I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday, and I love today ~ William Allen White