In the spirit of the season I will be taking some time off from blogging to spend some quality Christmas time with my family. But I wanted to leave behind a funny post I made a couple of months ago that got a big comment response. Be sure to read the comments and chime in with your own! They are pretty funny!
Ok…I am looking to have a very serious, open and honest adult conversation here. When I say conversation I mean that I really want feedback from my readers. That means everyone. Men and Women. This conversations is for those in relationships and for those who are married. Some people might read this and think I am insane for bringing it up, but one of my friends requested that I blog about this and I am going to do it…To put it eloquently I want to talk about bodily functions..
In relationships we take the good with the bad. It’s always nice to talk about the nice things and the personna we show in public. But as people say you never know what goes on behind closed doors! This past weekend a male friend of mine texted my husband along with other men asking this simple question…Have you ever passed gas ON your wife/girlfriend. A simple statment like that started a big to do with the men and my friend decided he wanted to poll people to find out what others find appropriate behavior when it comes to flatulence in a relationship. What is appropriate? Does it differ between men and women. I found this question to be very interesting, and although we are all adults I find that we act like children when it comes to this subject. I can’t throw stones because I certainly act like a child when someone mistakenly lets one go…but I think I can be adult enough to hear what others have to say.
I have been with my husband about 9 1/2 years and over that time have never intentionally passed gas or done any sort of bathroom business in front of him. He on the other hand isn’t as courteous. Many ask me why I allow it to be that way, and my response is I have no idea?? I really don’t. My husband hates it so I don’t do it? My friend who wanted the poll on the other hand…we’ll call him “J” let one go directly on his wife’s leg…she then told him that it was completely inappropriate to do that. BUT…I do know that his wife is comfortable enough to be free with her bodily functions in front of him…so I guess to each their own.
So here is the question to my readers. What is appropriate and what is not? Should women be allowed to be free in their own home to be less than lady like? Do rules apply to women that do not apply to men?
Don’t be afraid…go ahead and answer!!
It is natural. It happens. Holding it in isn’t necessarily healthy especially if you have gastro issues going on. When it happens out of the blue I don’t think anything of it. It is when it is forced out on purpose or when the person doesn’t at least bother to walk away before letting one rip…yuck.
That being said the men in my family freely pass gas all the time. They want to see who can be the loudest, stinkiest and most annoying…something that I don’t think is acceptable regardless of what gender you may be.
all i have to say is you grew up in our house and you know what that was like so i am surprised at the way you think. we have been very open and its a natural thing. its not a bad thing we have also had alot of laughs with it at our house
I think that way because my husband makes me feel that way:( as for “J” wow! I hope you get some hate responses back from that comment! lol
I dont think that there is anything worng when men pass gas. Women on the other hand… please! not in my presence. A bit double standard? yeah i know it is, but that is life.
I dont think it’s lady like for gals to pass gas in front of their partners. As I tell my wife, I know her farts and poops smell far worst than mine. However, it does not mean that i want to know about it. I dont want to think of her as one of the guys.
Is it too much to ask the following from women?
1) smell and look good
2) shave your legs
3) Dont brag about droppoing logs in the pool
CAN I GET A WHOOT! WHOOT!
As long as my identity remains private… I am all good
hahaha, tooting on each other isn’t exactly our favorite pasttime. But we’re pretty open and if we accidentally let one fly, then so be it. haha. We have only 1 bathroom in our house, so we try to give each other privacy. But it’s pretty obvious what we’re doing, lol.
“J” must be my husband. And how did I marry him, sometimes I ask myself that same question. I may just have to pass gas on him and you can write about how I will be homeless bc of it!!!! The way men think isn’t right but I am one of the women who just go along and accept it.
Nope!!! not your husband!
Sharon,
i am moved by your last comment. Your husband is a lucky man…
Well, I am “J’s” wife and I have to say my husband has lost his mind! I have known him for 10 years and he seems to be changing his tune on a few things. We are definitely open and comfortable with each other, but maybe too comfortable sometimes. All of a sudden after being married for almost 3 years he tells me he doesn’t want me to fart, burp, or go to the bathroom when he’s around. Well, too bad bucco! He knew what he was getting into when we got married. If I have to go number 2 when he’s home then I am going. Why should he have full freedom in our home and I can’t? I mean I don’t go around purposefully farting on or around him and i close the door if I am in the bathroom, but if it happens it happens. Fart and move on!
LOL “J” i would have put money on it that you were my husband!!! LOL
All i have to say is…. she eats, sleeps, and shits like a bear…. it is not human. I stand firm with my initial comment.
CAN I GET AN AMEN!
Well, I am “J’s” wife and I think my husband has lost his mind! We have known each other for 10 years and all of a sudden he is changing is view on things. Since we started dating we were always very comfortable with each other (sometimes too comfortable). I mean I don’t purposefully try to pass gass on or around him and I keep my privacy and shut the door when i have to go to the bathroom. But if we are together and a fart accidentally slips out then so sorry…that’s life. Why should my husband have freedom in our home, but I have to be worried if natural bodily functions occur when we’re home together? Also, read Jen’s blog closely…She writes that “J” farted ON his wife. That’s right readers ON me!
He knew what he was getting into when he married me. He can’t all of a sudden change his tune and say I can’t fart, burp, or go to the bathroom when he’s home. We have the rest of our lives together…get over it!
I would never poot on my boyfriend, nor would he do it to me. That’s the way we are…
Really? Who uses the word Poot?!
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‘Poot’ that word alone makes me giggle ?
Hilarious.
I have heard it said that many people treat their friends better than they do their family. I don’t know about you but I tend to guard what I “share” around my friends. My husband and I have been married for almost 14 years. We love, honor and respect one another- and we try our best to treat each other with at least the same amount of respect and deference that we treat others with. I find that some “sharing” is not conducive to me desiring my husband or him desiring me in an intimate way- so we try to keep those things that would hinder our intimacy private-He should get the BEST of me-not the worst…after all he is around me more than anyone else!
I have NEVER farted in front of my boyfriend, but he farts ON me, similar to this “J” character. He has the worst farts I’ve ever smelled. I’m used to it by now.
First of all, bodily functions are NOT sexy! It’s called having personal boundaries and is a matter of mutual respect. Going to the bathroom should remain private. Hey, it’s nice to keep some mystique and sexiness in a relationship. To each their own, but I could never show my significant other such disregard and would desire that same courtesy from her.
Just got booted out of a relationship where she would fart on me. I thought it was disgusting… She thought nothing of it…sure. Natural body function .. Just don’t point it my way… I don’t do it to you
I guess thats why you have to lay ground work from the start! ?
Passing gas is a natural bodily function, but so is peeing and you wouldn’t do that anytime or place the urge hits you, right? I don’t think it’s too much to ask that people step out of the room or otherwise excuse themselves to take care of business ?
Good point! There is a time and place for everything! Thanks for the comment!
Hi Jen,
You may be interested to know that when I searched “inappropriate bodily functions” using Google this article was the first result.
Congratulations! You are officially the internet’s foremost commentator on intergender flatulence in the context of a long term relationship. Maybe you could do a follow through post now that time has moved on!