I am not proud to admit it, but since we are all friends here I feel that I can share. Here goes….I am one of those people who has always judged other people’s choices, and I was/am one of those people who tend to judge other mothers. It’s not right, and no matter how hard I try I can’t help it! But now that I am a mom I am doing my best to do it less, because it’s just not right. I am finding that the things I have judged in the past I am now doing myself. It’s true! But I promise I am changing my ways. Now if you ask me to give advice to a new mom I have my saying down….it’s generic and boring but it’s true…..Never Say Never
I have always thought I would be able to choose my child’s bedtime. When friends would tell me that their kid went to sleep at 6:30 or 7:00 I thought to myself…boy is that early. Why would they put their kid down so early? Well fast forward to my sons witching hour which started anytime after 5:30 and I learned very quickly that he chose his bed time..not me.
I always thought mom’s who were strict about schedules for their kids were just crazy. What’s the big deal? Well the big deal my friends is that kids like schedules. They like routine, and when you stray from that routine you are bound to pay for it later. I have found that it’s not a mom being crazy, it’s about doing whatever you can to keep your calm and happy. Schedules can definitely help with that!
Picture this…you are in a store…minding your own business when you hear a loud scream. You look to your right and you see a little kid throwing a fit. I don’t know about you but I always thought…control your kid! I still tend to do that because I want to believe that I won’t allow my child to do that, but as time moves forward I start to wonder. Will I be that mom someday? Probably..lol. My own mom wouldn’t put up with it. She had the look, and the gritted teeth that stopped us in our tracks. I hope to mimic that look one day. For now I will just try not to judge.
The bottom line is that we all just do the best we can. It’s easy to look at someone else and question their choices, but you have no idea how you will act when the tables are turned. So I am learning to Never Say Never! I recommend you trying it too. Being a mom is hard enough. Being judged by others just makes it that much harder!