Learning On Other People’s Kids

2561252071_0af988f93fAs you know, having kids is hopefully in the cards for me and my husband. We both love them, and hope to one day be amazing parents. As our friends start to have children, I am reminded more and more that I have absolutely NO idea how one goes about taking care of a baby let alone raising one. People tell me..you’ll figure it out…it will come naturally…but I gotta tell you..it’s scary! I have decided to take matters into my own hands. I vow not to be a complete idiot when I hold my future child. I am just going to learn on other people’s kids!

I have come to realize that I am that girl who needs to sit on the couch in order to feel comfortable holding a baby…picture a 6 year old child. My husband on the other hand won’t even hold a baby until they can hold their head up on their own, but I guess since I can barely stand while holding one I shouldn’t throw stones. Although all of that is true, I have come far in the past few weeks. I have decided that holding a baby can’t be all that scary, and I will most likely not break them…or at least I hope not. I was telling my neighbor “M” how scared and unskilled I was with babies, and so a little while later my doorbell rang and she was holding her little 4 month old niece…she was like “here, hold her” and handed her to me… I pretty much panicked..Exhibit A on how much help I need.

 I went over to a friends house the other weekend to watch football. This particular friend had a baby boy back in June. It’s amazing how much he grows each time I see him. Well “T” had some work to do so I offered to hold the baby while she got some work done. I took this opportunity to get some practice and try some things. I held the baby while standing, I sat with the baby, and I even moved him around on my lap while switching positions. I came to find that little babies are pretty floppy and like to throw their heads around. What’s that about? I work so hard to protect their heads and neck and they have to make it difficult? I think I did pretty good on this go around…I was feeling confident. So confident that when I visited my neighbor who had a little boy in July..I was all like…” let me hold him I’m a pro”…so I held him for a bit…and then passed him to my neighbor so she could put him down in his seat (I couldn’t do that…let’s not get carried away!)

People ask me, how is it that I have so little practice? Well that’s easy! I haven’t dealt with little children since I babysat when I was 14…I am the oldest child so their are no nieces and nephews in my life thus far…and most of my friends just started to get married so they don’t have babies yet. How am I to learn??? My only option is to turn to my few friends and neighbors who do have babies for help. So I will just use their kids to further my education…

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7 Responses to Learning On Other People’s Kids

  1. Lori says:

    You can practice on Aubrey any day! She was totally content when you held her in NY. You’re going to be great at this mommy stuff…truly believe the hype…it will come naturally! As long as you do it with love it can’t be wrong.

  2. Jen says:

    Jessica…it is very scary thinking about all the stuff you have to think about when taking care of a child!Yikes!
    Lori, thank you…Aubrey was adorable, and I loved meeting her. I’d practice on her any day!

  3. Jessica @ Acting Adult says:

    I think practicing on other people’s kids is perfectly fine! You want to get used to holding them again. I have that automatic mom-bounce-thing so whenever I get a baby in my arms, it just happens naturally. Even though that part comes easily, I can’t imagine taking care of them 24 hours a day! That’s a scary thought.

  4. Lynda says:

    OK it’s only been a week but I would say holding Olivia is the LEAST scary thing. We love to plan and organize for things but childbirth and raising/care for is something I am slowly learning & finding out that is totally unpredictable, emotional, wonderful, scary and I’m sure many more things that I will soon find out. But to see the little precious- it’s just an amazing gift from God!

  5. Tina says:

    I think that your definitely becoming more confident since the very first time you held Luke. He was very content in your arms and I think he even fell asleep before my loud husband woke him up :)You are going to make a great mommy :)

  6. Sol says:

    I don’t hold babies. I just don’t. I don’t mind helping a mom out by holding the baby and so forth but I won’t go out of my way to ‘have to hold’ a baby. I am not cold. I love kids. I have one and have one on the way but…I just can’t seem to get past the fact something MIGHT happen and I might screw up somehow.

    You on the other hand, I just can’t see you failing at it. You are warm, inviting and loving. When you have your own baby you know exactly what to do.

  7. Sol says:

    I should say you know exactly what to do after some panic and reassurance from loved ones. :D

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