We all know that there are many reasons for us to say I love you. There’s the every day I love you, the intimate I love you, the I’m saying I love you because I know you are mad…and many others. Those three little words can say so much, but do we say them enough? Or do actions speak louder than words and sometimes we don’t even have to say them at all? Maybe it’s a combination of both?
I have been picking on The Captain recently because I told him I am always the one to say I love you first. He always says it back, but sometimes it’s just nice to have someone look at you and tell you they love you. He is actually very good at saying those 3 little words when he thinks I am mad at him though! When he says it then it sounds more like a question than a statement but I let that slide. We are not that couple that says I love you when we get off the phone, or even throughout the day but I do like to make it a point to look at him at least once during the day and tell him I love him. I really think it’s important for people to do that because even though we KNOW our partner loves us…it’s always nice to HEAR it being said.
I wrote a post a while back titled “Did You Say It?” which I wrote to remind myself and others not to take those you love for granted, and to be sure to let them know in words how much they mean to you. I look back on that post now and realize that I really took those words to heart. If you have time take a second to read it…it’s ok…I’ll wait….Done? Good! Don’t you agree?
Do you think women put more meaning into those three little words then men do? I do. I think women wait for that first time that their man utters I love you. They wait for the moment that he will look her in the eyes and sincerely say that he loves her. (I know I’m a hopeless romantic) I wonder if men find those moments to be as important. I can remember when The Captain and I first had the I Love you conversation. We were so young.
Are you a big fan of the words I Love you? Are you that person that says I love you every time you get off the phone? I’d love to hear the story where you first heard those beautiful three words. Who said them first?
Yes, the hubs and I say “I Love You” every time we get off the phone with each other or when he leaves for work for the day.
I first said, “I Love You” to him. I remember being so scared, scared that I was going to announce my love for me and he would not give it back but thank goodness, he did. It didn’t happen on a romantic date or some beautiful location,it happened during a late night phone call we were having. It was so nice to get what I was feeling off my chest. Those 3 words are scary but so meaningful!
Hubs and I say “I love you” everytime we get off the phone and everytime he drops me off at the bus in the morning. And random times throughout the day.
He said “I love you” first. It was funny because he said “I think I’m in love with you” while we were cuddling in bed together. Not incredibly romantic. But it was adorable because he was so nervous.
I think all women obsess about it more than men do. We dont say I love you when we hang up the phone but we always say it before we go to bed at night and my man is pretty good about texting those 3 words throughout the day 🙂
I think my husband said it first to me. I know I felt it before he did, but I waited for him to say it because of my fear of being rejected, but it didn’t take him TOO long to say it after I knew how I felt!
I try to make sure hubs and I say “I love you” before we go to work… just in case. We also will say it after we get home and before we go to bed. Sometimes we’ll say it on the phone, but not always. Seth doesn’t like being mushy in company so sometimes he won’t say it if people are around. 😛
Seth will say it A LOT if he wants to get busy, or after getting busy. He’ll say it repeatedly like 20 times in a row, which is cute, but sometimes annoying. 🙂
My boyfriend & I say I love you frequently, including ends of phone calls and leaving for work in the morning. I like it best when it’s spontaneous though, those moments where we’re doing something silly or whatever and you just feel so full up with love that you just have to mark the moment.
The first time I said it to him, though, was totally by accident! I’d just gotten home from our weekend away and was leaving a voicemail when out it tumbled. He kept the voicemail until he changed services 🙂
We say it alot. Hubs happens to be the more romantic of the two of us (LOL, how often does that happen), so he may say it (or start it) slightly more than I do.
The first time he said it to me we were hanging out on a blanket in the park. And I had to have him repeat it, because he said it so softly!
My husband was the first person to say I love you. Talk about being caught off guard! I was so relieved, I told him that I loved him too and loved him for a long time. I was so excited (I never said it because I didnt want him to think I was some love sick puppy that could be a crazy stalker, LOL!).
We tell each other we love each other before we leave for work, during work (phone, email, txt), and when we see each other again in the evening. I think we both say it equally and a lot!
my husband was actually the first to say it! followed very closely by me, mind you. but you’re right, i think women SAY it more often, but i don’t necessarily think that the men aren’t thinking/feeling it. they’re just dummies. they don’t think in the considerate sense of the word the way that women do. i’m a gusher- i don’t get off the phone/leave my brothers, parents, or even really close friends without saying it. i made peace a long time ago that i just need to say it. but it sure feels good when i hear back, like you said!
i randomly popped over from sits, but you have a follower in me!
It took my husband a long time to say the words. When he did I knew he meant them forever. Now I love the ways he shows me that he loves me just as much. Stopping from SITS!
My hubby was the first to say it but I could tell he wanted it to but was afraid to say it so I had to give him the green light to go for it (was that mean?). The feeling was mutual of course 🙂
I too feel as though I always say it first and he says it back. I wish he initiated those three words more often for sure. He tells me that I should just know it (which of course I do) and not have to hear it (but it is really nice to just have it said to you out of the blue!). The times where he does say it is when I drop him off at work in the morning. I’m ALWAYS the one to say it when we go to sleep at night.
We actually say it a lot: when we get off the phone or leave for the day or when he walks in the other room…
And he actually said “I love you first” to me. It was the first night we moved in together (yeah uh I have no idea what I was thinking, moving in with someone who hadn’t professed their love for me yet).
We were goofing around and I said something like he hurt me and he said he was sorry and then he said he loved me. I was so shocked I didn’t say anything back for a while and then I finally said it back.
Husband and I tell each other those three little words every time we see each other. 🙂 When we get off the phone, when he’s heading out the door, when we go to bed.
He was the first one to say it, while we were laying on the couch watching television. It was a month after we were dating. We were engaged six months later!