Comments on: Wifey 101:Guys Are Clueless Sometimes

By: Financialbondage

Financialbondage — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 22:40:47 +0000

I think valentines day is something that retail stores dreamed up to make $.

I think men just want women to say what they want, rather than us having to read minds all the time.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 03:06:04 +0000

I agree…even if it’s an excuse V day is a nice time to set aside for me and DH..and I will embrace that because of that. It’s important to celebrate your relationship.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 03:05:02 +0000

I guess men folk do have to work at it! but you know…I have to work on cleaning, and I have to work on other parts of being a wife…but I do it.
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By: MrsH2009

MrsH2009 — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 03:02:30 +0000

So true. I also don’t understand why people don’t like Vday. It’s not a Hallmark holiday, it has a history. Plus it doesn’t have to be about romantic love. I’m 32 and married and my dad still gets me something every year. I understand you should celebrate love everyday, and we do, but it’s not to set aside a day that will just be for DH and I no one else. All we did is go to dinner and see a band, but we had fun together.

By: Gunny Hartman

Gunny Hartman — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 22:05:38 +0000

“I just think we hope that our men will WANT to want to be romantic and sweet.”

Well said, convicting, and probably NOT too much to ask. But menfolk really do have to work at it. Sadly, it doesn’t seem to come naturally … at least not for mutants like myself.

P.S. I came via Young Wife’s blog.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:37:32 +0000

Good comment Christina! I think you should use that on your friends cause like you said..I can’t think of one girl who gets flowers and says “oh I hate flowers”. No they get them and smile! I too think it’s a cop out!
You are totally right about the gifts..someday we are going to have kids and life will be about them so now is the time to do things for eachother. I never really thought of it that way..and you know what?? I’ll say it. I LIKE GIFTS!

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:35:36 +0000

Ya I get what you are saying..and I have been trying to be better. But a surprise is no longer a surprise if you have to ask for it..lol.

By: Christina

Christina — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:20:57 +0000

Great post! So true…I’m going to start using your strip club analogy on my friends and coworkers who swear that they hate V-Day. It’s almost like a cop-out because they’re afraid their man isn’t going to come through. When I got flowers delivered at work, one of my coworkers said that she tells her husband not to buy her flowers because they die. True, they do. But I don’t know a single person who doesn’t beam when they get flowers! It’s just nice to know you were thought of.

Also, I’ve tried to get away from being “that couple” who doesn’t celebrate with gifts on Christmas/birthdays/holidays. We have done it once or twice, but I always end up thinking, “Why did we do that?” It’s not like we have a bunch of kids to focus the attention on. We can afford it. We deserve it. So I’ve banned the whole “let’s not do gifts” option in our house. I like a reason to celebrate, even if it’s just with dinner together, game night, a handmade card.

You never disappoint with your posts!

By: Ashley@ Just Another Mom of 2

Ashley@ Just Another Mom of 2 — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 18:42:26 +0000

I have learned after five years of marriage to tell him that yes, it is important, do something! If nothing else, men are certainly literal creatures- it seems to make it easy to tell him that yes, I do expect acknowledgment of the holiday, and yes surprises are good. Takes the guesswork out of it, and that way I’m not mad and he’s not shocked!

By: Kerrie

Kerrie — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:25:48 +0000

No, I wouldn’t – but I’d want to know who’s babysitting! I think it prob comes more down to me being a control freak…spontanaiety (sp?) doesn’t sit as well with me as it does for others!