Comments on: Why Do Women Feel Fat and Men Feel Sexy? http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/ My Life as a Mrs. Wed, 23 May 2012 18:02:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: My Take on the Gym | After the Alter http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-108104 My Take on the Gym | After the Alter Thu, 05 May 2011 16:33:38 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-108104 [...] go back in a sort of “I know you exist” type of way. My pattern seems to be…start feeling fat, tell myself I need to go to the gym…find a gym, pay the start up fee, and get locked into a [...] [...] go back in a sort of “I know you exist” type of way. My pattern seems to be…start feeling fat, tell myself I need to go to the gym…find a gym, pay the start up fee, and get locked into a [...]

]]> By: Jenny http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-97120 Jenny Mon, 28 Mar 2011 11:52:22 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-97120 Mark- ask which bits she hates so much, and then kiss those bits right at that moment, slowly and sensually. And tell her why each bit's sexy. I melted when a boyfriend told me my big hips and chest were feminine and womanly because he said looking like a mother was the sexiest thing on earth. A fit slender more straight-liney friend of mine loved when someone told her how young and tight and firm she looked, he preferred small boobs. The guy I live with now I'm trying to restrain myself from upset when we have an amazing weekend and get on like best friends then he'll joke about being totally distracted by some very thin small-boobed model girl on tv.. which is the opposite of my shape. And I don't want to be that shape. I partly get angry because I do like my shape, and other men have been more appreciative and lingered over me a lot more. And partly I get mad because he pervs over girls who might be smouldering but their expression says that they're shy, and don't express themselves much. Much easier partner, albeit simple. Most of the questions online about this that are answered by men seem to say it's the woman's insecurity and she should sort it out because that's unattractive. But I've been really confident at times in my life and in my own (even flawed) body, and had lovers who didn't look around. Or didn't notice. So maybe me and my current man are a mismatch... if with him, I don't feel confident. The question is whether I'd be more myself without him or with someone else. Mark- ask which bits she hates so much, and then kiss those bits right at that moment, slowly and sensually. And tell her why each bit’s sexy. I melted when a boyfriend told me my big hips and chest were feminine and womanly because he said looking like a mother was the sexiest thing on earth. A fit slender more straight-liney friend of mine loved when someone told her how young and tight and firm she looked, he preferred small boobs.

The guy I live with now I’m trying to restrain myself from upset when we have an amazing weekend and get on like best friends then he’ll joke about being totally distracted by some very thin small-boobed model girl on tv.. which is the opposite of my shape. And I don’t want to be that shape. I partly get angry because I do like my shape, and other men have been more appreciative and lingered over me a lot more. And partly I get mad because he pervs over girls who might be smouldering but their expression says that they’re shy, and don’t express themselves much. Much easier partner, albeit simple.

Most of the questions online about this that are answered by men seem to say it’s the woman’s insecurity and she should sort it out because that’s unattractive. But I’ve been really confident at times in my life and in my own (even flawed) body, and had lovers who didn’t look around. Or didn’t notice. So maybe me and my current man are a mismatch… if with him, I don’t feel confident. The question is whether I’d be more myself without him or with someone else.

]]> By: Mark http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-70525 Mark Tue, 04 Jan 2011 21:43:47 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-70525 What does a man say to a woman who confesses that she feels fat and unattractive? Especially a man who thinks his SO is the most beautiful woman on Earth, a man who loves everything about her, body and soul! Everything my girlfriend thinks is a flaw I find absolutely gorgeous! But if I tell her she's beautiful the way she is, she thinks I'm lying, and if I don't say anything she thinks I'm not attracted. I feel like I'm in a no win situation. Help !!!!! What does a man say to a woman who confesses that she feels fat and unattractive? Especially a man who thinks his SO is the most beautiful woman on Earth, a man who loves everything about her, body and soul!

Everything my girlfriend thinks is a flaw I find absolutely gorgeous! But if I tell her she’s beautiful the way she is, she thinks I’m lying, and if I don’t say anything she thinks I’m not attracted.

I feel like I’m in a no win situation. Help !!!!!

]]> By: Mrs. Dunn http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-9128 Mrs. Dunn Sat, 15 May 2010 19:32:16 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-9128 you know this is very true I worry about what I eat and how much I'm always on a diet I feel fat and ugly alot of the time and my husband well he doesn't have to worry about anything like that. I get coments alot that I am pretty though but it's still hard for me to accept them and it almost makes me want try harder to lose more wieght. Anyway it is hard for women to accept how they are with the way the world is today. I think all women need to be treated the same and no one should judge one another. you know this is very true I worry about what I eat and how much I’m always on a diet I feel fat and ugly alot of the time and my husband well he doesn’t have to worry about anything like that. I get coments alot that I am pretty though but it’s still hard for me to accept them and it almost makes me want try harder to lose more wieght. Anyway it is hard for women to accept how they are with the way the world is today. I think all women need to be treated the same and no one should judge one another.

]]> By: Caitlin http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-3275 Caitlin Fri, 19 Feb 2010 05:39:52 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-3275 Well some of this I agree with but when you guys were talking about the feeling fat and your self-consicous.. Im young but we only think about ourselves that way because either guys or other girls have called us fat. Girls make that comment to other girls to make them made.. I know this because it has got to me and I think about my self that way.. All though I am very skinny and know that for a fact because I actually am a lil under weight but not where I need to eat everything in the house. But I still let that stuff get to me... An the part where I dont think that im pretty.. Every girl is pretty in their own special way.. Dont let another women get to you just bc they dont think you are pretty! Well some of this I agree with but when you guys were talking about the feeling fat and your self-consicous.. Im young but we only think about ourselves that way because either guys or other girls have called us fat. Girls make that comment to other girls to make them made.. I know this because it has got to me and I think about my self that way.. All though I am very skinny and know that for a fact because I actually am a lil under weight but not where I need to eat everything in the house. But I still let that stuff get to me… An the part where I dont think that im pretty.. Every girl is pretty in their own special way.. Dont let another women get to you just bc they dont think you are pretty!

]]> By: Dorkys http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-1457 Dorkys Mon, 21 Dec 2009 03:52:46 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-1457 Oh I wish I knew what the deal was with this. Like you mentioned, I think a lot has to do with the images we grew up with: dolls, movies, TV, celebs all portraying the "perfect" body. How could we NOT be conditioned to want that? Now it's a matter of trying our best to accept what we have and, if it's healthy, learn to love it as it is. Oh I wish I knew what the deal was with this. Like you mentioned, I think a lot has to do with the images we grew up with: dolls, movies, TV, celebs all portraying the “perfect” body. How could we NOT be conditioned to want that? Now it’s a matter of trying our best to accept what we have and, if it’s healthy, learn to love it as it is.

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-1455 Jen Mon, 21 Dec 2009 02:32:46 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-1455 I LOVED that campaign! and I loved the women who were brave enough to bare it all! :) Great point! I LOVED that campaign! and I loved the women who were brave enough to bare it all! :) Great point!

]]> By: Mommyof2Girlz http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-1454 Mommyof2Girlz Mon, 21 Dec 2009 00:47:39 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-1454 I think we are almost made to feel that unless we are skinny we are not lovable or likable. Is it by Hollywood? I do not think they help the matters when you see Actresses getting smaller and smaller. Is it the clothing designers that photo shop the pictures to be almost unrecognizable that you looking at a woman's body? Yep, I sure think so. I was glad when Dove came out with the "real woman" models..how fabulous! Every woman is different, every body and personality different. That's what makes us us and not an identical twin to girl standing next to us. Stopping in from SITS to welcome you to the group, it's nice to meet you :) I think we are almost made to feel that unless we are skinny we are not lovable or likable. Is it by Hollywood? I do not think they help the matters when you see Actresses getting smaller and smaller. Is it the clothing designers that photo shop the pictures to be almost unrecognizable that you looking at a woman’s body? Yep, I sure think so. I was glad when Dove came out with the “real woman” models..how fabulous! Every woman is different, every body and personality different. That’s what makes us us and not an identical twin to girl standing next to us. Stopping in from SITS to welcome you to the group, it’s nice to meet you :)

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-1453 Jen Sun, 20 Dec 2009 23:31:33 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-1453 Thank you so much for stopping by from the Vanderbilt wife! It's great to know where people come to visit from! I totally think alot of insecurities come from our own heads. But I think the difference between men and women is that women's insecurities cause them to act..and men get insecure but move on! lol Thank you so much for stopping by from the Vanderbilt wife! It’s great to know where people come to visit from! I totally think alot of insecurities come from our own heads. But I think the difference between men and women is that women’s insecurities cause them to act..and men get insecure but move on! lol

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/why-do-women-feel-fat-and-men-feel-sexy/comment-page-1/#comment-1452 Jen Sun, 20 Dec 2009 21:13:40 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2367#comment-1452 Thank you! I am truly enjoying visiting SITS every day! :) And I totally agree alot has to do with celebrities! No way it's realistic! Thank you! I am truly enjoying visiting SITS every day! :) And I totally agree alot has to do with celebrities! No way it’s realistic!

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