It’s official…Month 3 of TTC has come and gone with no success. I pretty much knew this would be the case since I was away the weekend that was supposedly “the time”, but it still hurts none the less. I decided to write this post since I have been taking you all on this journey with me, and I didn’t want some of you thinking that no news was good news. I also wanted to say that I am OK.
The Captain and I have decided that we are going to take a little break from TTC. The way the timing works from this point makes it so my due date would be right around my sisters wedding, and I in no way, shape or form want to miss, or take anything away from her big day. Everyone deserves to have that magical day all to themselves, and she was such a wonderful maid of honor in my wedding, I want to be there for her too. I just warned her that I plan/hope to be very fat and pregnant at her wedding. I gotta tell you, she has been nothing but supportive of me through all of this, since I have been stressing out alot about the “timing” of my future child. She reminded me that she sees it as a blessing no matter what happens. I am so thankful to have such an understanding sister.
I think a little break will do us some good too. I am a total Christmas girl and I plan to enjoy the holidays to the fullest. I’ll look at this New Years Eve as my last chance to enjoy the evening as just a wife, because next year I hope to celebrate it as a mother. I think my New Years Eve plans will be a little different then.
So here’s to enjoying the holidays, enjoying life and enjoying every glass of vino I still get to drink. And here’s to finding the silver lining in all the little kinks life throws my way…I have a feeling life will be full of them!
I think you have a really healthy way of looking at it. And good for you that you want to give your sister the full spotlight at her wedding. There are lots of people that wouldn’t even think about that timing issue.
Thank you:) I’m feeling good about it and am looking forward to celebrating with her!
Becoming a parent will happen, good for you for taking the time to enjoy the holidays and enjoy your sister’s wedding.
don’t stress about it… it will happen. it took us longer than we thought too — & with a little help, we now have our bundle of joy. enjoy the ‘trying’, if you know what i mean.
happy holidays!
And your bundle is adorable!
Thank you for the kind words…I am truly working on the “don’t stress” part and I think I am succeeding. Luckily the holidays keep me busy! 
Happy Holidays to you too!
I am sorry to hear of your struggles. I hope the MERRY SITSMAS cheers you up a little bit:-)
It does help!
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I found your blog today after spending my lunch hour scouring the Internet for other people in similar situations. Your site jumped out at me, as we have many similarities. I am a 28 y/o woman from PA. My husband and I were married in August 2008 and have suffered through 2 miscarriages since then. We’re doing our best to stay positive and hopeful on our TTC journey, but, as you know, some days are better than others. Thanks for sharing your insight and experiences – it helps to know that there are other people out there who understand what it’s like to want to be parents so badly. God must have chosen us for this struggle for a reason – hope we find out what that reason is very soon!
Jen, I commend you for being such a great person & a wonderful sister. When the time is right for us, it will be. I’m sure of that! xoxo -Heather
Thank you so much Heather. You have been amazing suppor through all of this. **Hugs!**
I’m a huge non-fan of irony…yet…how ironic is it that women spend a huge part of life trying to not get pregnant, only to find out that it is harder than they’d ever imagined? just think…so many people have babies without even trying (which is, i realize, very annoying). perhaps NOT trying will be the thing that works–what a wonderful christmas present that would be! also…i’m sure your sister wouldn’t mind at all, no matter when it happens. you’d be giving her a great wedding gift–the gift of becoming an aunt. (and you can’t exchange that for store credit!!!)
I totally agree with the ironic part. They never really teach you HOW to get pregnant, or that it may be diffiuclt. They taught, if you have sex you get pregnant..lol..this is how NOT to get pregnant. I guess we all end up where we are supposed to, and if that means with an unplanned pregnancy, or having trouble we have to play the cards we are dealt. As for my sister I am sure you are right….I just know that I want to be part of it, so a break is probably best.