After the AlterSAHM vs. Workinig moms | After the Alter http://afterthealter.com My Life as a Mrs. Wed, 23 May 2012 01:53:56 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 SAHM vs. Working Mom’s http://afterthealter.com/sahm-vs-working-moms/ http://afterthealter.com/sahm-vs-working-moms/#comments Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:51:51 +0000 Jen http://afterthealter.com/?p=1962 In today’s world there is a HUGE battle that women are fighting. It’s the battle between the stay at home moms  and the working moms. I myself am neither of these yet, but I wanted to weigh in on the issue as an outsider first. Maybe someday I will look back on this post and have different opinions, but for now I feel very strongly about what is best for me, and I wanted to talk about it. But what is best for me isn’t necessarily the point of this post…this post is more to talk about why women are so inclined to judge each other….why must there be this battle?

Stay At Home Moms (SAHM) vs. Working Moms: The Battle Begins

Last week I was watching the Dr. Phil show. I don’t normally watch his show, but my mom was visiting from out of town and told me that this particular show was about SAHM vs. Working moms. I always find this topic to be interesting since I myself dream of being a SAHM and truly valued and was blessed by the fact that my mom was a SAHM. While watching I was completely appalled. Not only did Dr. Phil do a HORRIBLE job of  remaining unbiased (favoring working moms), the women on the show were pretty much ready to cat fight!

I will be the first to admit that I have trouble keeping opinions to myself and sometimes judge others for the choices that they make. I am not proud of this, but it’s true. Some may get mad at me for saying this, but I  believe that I would be a better mother if I were a SAHM. I personally don’t believe that I could be the best mom possible if I had to work outside of the home. If I had a choice there is no way that I would CHOOSE to work. I would CHOOSE to put all my efforts to my children, and I would sacrifice all I could to be able to do this.   To be honest, I find myself baffled by women who do choose to work, but after watching the women go back and forth I realized that when it comes to this issue, how can I be so self righteous? How can I judge other women for the choices?

The woman who writes the blog Dooce.comappeared on that particular Dr. Phil show. I already had been following her blog, but loved what she had to say on the show. Don’t quote me here, but her basic beliefs are that even though she is a SAHM, which is her choice, she believes that women should band together rather than judge each other, and I am beginning to agree with her.

 Why are we so quick to judge? What works for one woman/family may not work for another. And this is something we should all keep in mind the next time we open our mouth to put another woman down…I may have some trouble with this, but I am going to try to do my best. Isn’t accepting you have a problem the first step???

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