Comments on: Repost:Remembering Happiness Trumps Sadness

By: Jan

Jan — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 09:23:14 +0000

Jen- sorry for your loss…I know exactly what you are going through. We suffered our first miscarriage last June and had the same diagnosis of blighted ovum. It’s devastating and heart wrenching but I know it in my heart not to give up . Please know you are not alone. I will be praying for you and the other ladies out there who share the same dreams of being a mom. Keep the faith and thank you for sharing your story.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:48:59 +0000

I am so happy to hear your story had a happy ending. I hope that someday too I can look back on this time..with a child in my arms and reflect. I know I will get there someday (or I hope) but now it seems so far away. Thank you so much for the comment and the hugs.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:47:32 +0000

I’m so sorry to hear that you had 2..it’s just horrible. I agree. I feel women who suffer loss (especially early on) are made to feel that they have to move on and be happy..but I think it’s ok to reflect and be sad sometimes. And you said it great here..it was the hopes and dreams that I lost too:( Thank you so much for your comment.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:45:47 +0000

Thank you so much. It definitely is a balance, and I do try to focus on the positives..writing posts like these reminds me how lucky I am , and how much happiness I do have.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:44:39 +0000

although its hard I do remind myself that the big guy does have a plan like you said. It is VERY hard to understand sometimes..but I guess its not my place to wonder…I just have to have faith…so I try..lol Thank you for your kind words!

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:41:24 +0000

You’ve gone through so much and I am so sorry. I hate to know that there are others that know what I am going through because it’s just such a horrible thing. I hope we both get our babies soon **Hugs!**

By: Kathy

Kathy — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 12:25:23 +0000

Jen, I am so sorry to read of your loss and sorrier that you had to endure it. I was blessed with two children here in “real time” and two that I miscarried. Time does ease the pain, but when it happened I just couldn’t read the sympathy cards that arrived but instead put them away. I found them months later when I was cleaning and it was time to deal and move on. I cried, I was depressed, and now and then I think how different my life would be with two more children in the house. Certainly a different experience from your own and really no comparison – but I pray that you will have the family you hope for and without the pain and worry of “what if.” hugs and best wishes to you

By: Adventure Mom Janna

Adventure Mom Janna — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 04:24:17 +0000

I’ve had 2 and it’s normal and good to grieve. I think too many women feel they just have to move on and act like it was no big deal.

Although the baby may not have been far along in your tummy, your hopes and dreams were very far along and looked like they were coming true.

I’m glad your being open and honest about your feelings of loss, and happy for you that you have so many other blessing to count.

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By: Ashley@ Just Another Mom of 2

Ashley@ Just Another Mom of 2 — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 03:01:24 +0000

I’m so sorry you’re having to struggle this week. That balance, and finding the right way to navigate it, can be so challenging that it’s downright heartbreaking. I think it’s amazing that you are trying to focus on the happiness outweighing the pain- your post shows the love that the two of you have and I hope you had a wonderful day today. (hug)