Comments on: Independent Woman http://afterthealter.com/independent-woman/ My Life as a Mrs. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 14:42:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Cheryl McCann http://afterthealter.com/independent-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Cheryl McCann Tue, 14 Apr 2009 19:41:30 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=442#comment-101 I think whatever works for the two people. Husband and wife are "inter-dependent" on each other which means they both need each other in different ways. Although Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eve failed miserably, we have a chance to succeed in good marriages today. Our faith (aka The Bible) brings a lot of the answers. Cheryl I think whatever works for the two people. Husband and wife are “inter-dependent” on each other which means they both need each other in different ways. Although Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eve failed miserably, we have a chance to succeed in good marriages today. Our faith (aka The Bible) brings a lot of the answers.

Cheryl

]]> By: MoodyMommy http://afterthealter.com/independent-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-96 MoodyMommy Tue, 14 Apr 2009 18:37:17 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=442#comment-96 I think that there is a happy medium...I have been married for almost 11 years, and parts of my life are still extremely independent..so much so that I probably hurt his feelings, but I grew up with a woman like your grandmother...I learned at an early age that I would just be different. Like my Blog for example...my husband has NO part of that side of my life...he honestly could care less, he has worked all day and doesn't want to hear about... I think to have a happy marriage, you have to remember to maintain who you were when you got married...he married YOU not a helpless lady. Just remember who YOU are and keep her with you!! But yeah...I would let my husband deal with the cable company...yuck!@! I think that there is a happy medium…I have been married for almost 11 years, and parts of my life are still extremely independent..so much so that I probably hurt his feelings, but I grew up with a woman like your grandmother…I learned at an early age that I would just be different. Like my Blog for example…my husband has NO part of that side of my life…he honestly could care less, he has worked all day and doesn’t want to hear about… I think to have a happy marriage, you have to remember to maintain who you were when you got married…he married YOU not a helpless lady. Just remember who YOU are and keep her with you!! But yeah…I would let my husband deal with the cable company…yuck!@!

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/independent-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Jen Tue, 14 Apr 2009 15:19:55 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=442#comment-100 I think that was a wonderful idea Lisa! I never want to be that woman who is left totally helpless if something god forbid happened. Especially when it comes to the money. My husband and I both know the passwords and such and I keep tabs on the accounts. It's always good to know that stuff. I think writing everything down is a great idea. I wanted to start a binder with all that stuff. I currently have all of our medical info in the binder, and will continue to do so when we have children. I think passwords and where everything is and what vendors we use is a great idea to write down! Good suggestion! I think that was a wonderful idea Lisa! I never want to be that woman who is left totally helpless if something god forbid happened. Especially when it comes to the money. My husband and I both know the passwords and such and I keep tabs on the accounts. It’s always good to know that stuff. I think writing everything down is a great idea. I wanted to start a binder with all that stuff. I currently have all of our medical info in the binder, and will continue to do so when we have children. I think passwords and where everything is and what vendors we use is a great idea to write down! Good suggestion!

]]> By: Lynn http://afterthealter.com/independent-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-99 Lynn Tue, 14 Apr 2009 15:19:41 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=442#comment-99 I think depending on my husband is my God-given gift but it also is my responsibility to be his helper. I, too, am so appreciative for all the strengths my husband brings to our partnership and I will be devastated on the day that he is gone (if it happens before I go!). However, I don't feel that I have relinquished my identity by relying on him. If anything, he makes me a better person because I can focus on other things that are important to the family. We complement each other and I LOVE IT! I think depending on my husband is my God-given gift but it also is my responsibility to be his helper. I, too, am so appreciative for all the strengths my husband brings to our partnership and I will be devastated on the day that he is gone (if it happens before I go!). However, I don’t feel that I have relinquished my identity by relying on him. If anything, he makes me a better person because I can focus on other things that are important to the family. We complement each other and I LOVE IT!

]]> By: Lisa http://afterthealter.com/independent-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Lisa Tue, 14 Apr 2009 15:06:23 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=442#comment-98 I've never been the type of person that wanted to deal with the "house" stuff. In any home we have lived in my husband does it all... phone, internet, cable, movers, painters, etc (you get the idea) and I have no problem with that, however being a bookkeeper at work I always hated the thought of having to come home and do it, so for the past years my husband has been the "bookkeeper" of the house. And then one day it dawned on me... if god forbid something happened to him or just say we seperated, I would have no clue what bills were owed to who (this being especially true since so much is done online and emailed to HIM)! That night I sat down and we wrote down everything and every password so that I was in the loop! He can still have has fun making the choices for our utlities to enhance his electronic goodies BUT going forward I will know who gets paid what and when...but it is so easy to let someone else do it all ;) I’ve never been the type of person that wanted to deal with the “house” stuff. In any home we have lived in my husband does it all… phone, internet, cable, movers, painters, etc (you get the idea) and I have no problem with that, however being a bookkeeper at work I always hated the thought of having to come home and do it, so for the past years my husband has been the “bookkeeper” of the house. And then one day it dawned on me… if god forbid something happened to him or just say we seperated, I would have no clue what bills were owed to who (this being especially true since so much is done online and emailed to HIM)! That night I sat down and we wrote down everything and every password so that I was in the loop! He can still have has fun making the choices for our utlities to enhance his electronic goodies BUT going forward I will know who gets paid what and when…but it is so easy to let someone else do it all ;)

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/independent-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-97 Jen Tue, 14 Apr 2009 14:49:14 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=442#comment-97 I agree that a happy medium is key. I am still extremely independent in some aspects...and I want to know what is going on at all times in household matters, but I guess it's nice to hand over some of the responsibilities to someone else. As women I think we want to be able to take care of it all and sometimes we just can't. It's ok to take some of the burden off of yourself. I guess that is part of the joys of marriage! I agree that a happy medium is key. I am still extremely independent in some aspects…and I want to know what is going on at all times in household matters, but I guess it’s nice to hand over some of the responsibilities to someone else. As women I think we want to be able to take care of it all and sometimes we just can’t. It’s ok to take some of the burden off of yourself. I guess that is part of the joys of marriage!

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