Comments on: Being Emotional http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/ My Life as a Mrs. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 14:42:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Pamela http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-17408 Pamela Tue, 27 Jul 2010 03:17:32 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-17408 Every Mom feels like you are about unsolicited advice..... thats one we all have to deal with, a " suck it up" or blast them for feeling they needed to share with you :-). You are going to be a great Mom Jen, and yes parents do have differeneces on raising their children, this is an area of growth for you and Mr Awesome too. It will work out Jen, you have a great relationship, you both wanted to be parents and now you will be. Worry is something that will be with you for a very long time so try to not let it over whelm you. AS far as VISITORS go, ITs your room, its your body, if you are tired you let them( Family/ Nurse's) know NO more visitors until you are up for it. I wish you peace my dear. Have you gone for a massage in awhile?, go for a pregnacy massage. ;-) Every Mom feels like you are about unsolicited advice….. thats one we all have to deal with, a ” suck it up” or blast them for feeling they needed to share with you :-) . You are going to be a great Mom Jen, and yes parents do have differeneces on raising their children, this is an area of growth for you and Mr Awesome too. It will work out Jen, you have a great relationship, you both wanted to be parents and now you will be. Worry is something that will be with you for a very long time so try to not let it over whelm you. AS far as VISITORS go, ITs your room, its your body, if you are tired you let them( Family/ Nurse’s) know NO more visitors until you are up for it. I wish you peace my dear. Have you gone for a massage in awhile?, go for a pregnacy massage. ;-)

]]> By: Young Wife http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-17318 Young Wife Mon, 26 Jul 2010 15:28:10 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-17318 People are WAY too free with their advice. When I was engaged it seemed like every doctor, nurse, co-worker, and grocery store clerk had marriage advice. I can't imagine how bad it is when you're pregnant! People are WAY too free with their advice. When I was engaged it seemed like every doctor, nurse, co-worker, and grocery store clerk had marriage advice. I can’t imagine how bad it is when you’re pregnant!

]]> By: Type A Nightmare http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-16942 Type A Nightmare Fri, 23 Jul 2010 18:54:49 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-16942 Listen lady... it's okay to worry. That's what Moms do. As for the hospital, I have those same type worries. Additionally, we're having babies in cold/flu/RSV season. I fully plan to discuss with the nurses ahead of time that I may need them to be my "bad guy." So that I don't have to hurt feelings, etc., I'm going to use them to tell people that I need to rest, that the baby needs to go back to the nursery, etc. Not giving advice... ;) ... just telling you what I'm doing so I don't have to make anyone mad. ;) Listen lady… it’s okay to worry. That’s what Moms do. As for the hospital, I have those same type worries. Additionally, we’re having babies in cold/flu/RSV season. I fully plan to discuss with the nurses ahead of time that I may need them to be my “bad guy.” So that I don’t have to hurt feelings, etc., I’m going to use them to tell people that I need to rest, that the baby needs to go back to the nursery, etc. Not giving advice… ;) … just telling you what I’m doing so I don’t have to make anyone mad. ;)

]]> By: Shelley @ Hand In Hand http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-16923 Shelley @ Hand In Hand Fri, 23 Jul 2010 15:27:08 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-16923 That's got to be hard to have people always telling you how they think you should do things. But they are most likely just trying to help, so try to keep that in mind! That’s got to be hard to have people always telling you how they think you should do things. But they are most likely just trying to help, so try to keep that in mind!

]]> By: shannon http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-16915 shannon Fri, 23 Jul 2010 12:47:35 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-16915 remember, people may give advice, but it doesnt mean you have to take it (or listen for that matter). you are the parent of this child, not anyone elses. i found that the best advice was the example that others had set --- not their words, but their actions. worrying is totally normal -- remember, everything will always work out in the end and worrying about it isnt going to help. sorry, too much advice? no need to listen if you dont want. :) good luck - everything will be totally fine!!! :) remember, people may give advice, but it doesnt mean you have to take it (or listen for that matter). you are the parent of this child, not anyone elses. i found that the best advice was the example that others had set — not their words, but their actions. worrying is totally normal — remember, everything will always work out in the end and worrying about it isnt going to help. sorry, too much advice? no need to listen if you dont want. :) good luck – everything will be totally fine!!! :)

]]> By: Lori http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-16910 Lori Fri, 23 Jul 2010 12:11:39 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-16910 It's not silly to have the feelings that you have and to be worrying about things. This is one of the most monumental and incredible experiences you'll have in your life! And however you're feeling is 100% right, because you're in charge of your emotions (Did I just sound like Dr. Phil?!?) You (like myself) are a planner...which adds to the stress and worrying because you are more aware of everything there is to think about. My best advice (and I know you don't like advice but I'm hoping you don't mind this bit) is to find a way to let go even if it's just for a few minutes a day. Yoga worked wonders for me...and it was something I was able to do through almost all of my pregnancy. It was my 40 minutes a day to stop worrying about the color of the walls in the nursery, or if I should test for Down Syndrome, or whether I should have slept on my side last night instead of my back. If you can, find something that lets you just take a break and regroup. Besides...all the worrying and the planning will still be there when you're done :0) It’s not silly to have the feelings that you have and to be worrying about things. This is one of the most monumental and incredible experiences you’ll have in your life! And however you’re feeling is 100% right, because you’re in charge of your emotions (Did I just sound like Dr. Phil?!?)

You (like myself) are a planner…which adds to the stress and worrying because you are more aware of everything there is to think about. My best advice (and I know you don’t like advice but I’m hoping you don’t mind this bit) is to find a way to let go even if it’s just for a few minutes a day. Yoga worked wonders for me…and it was something I was able to do through almost all of my pregnancy. It was my 40 minutes a day to stop worrying about the color of the walls in the nursery, or if I should test for Down Syndrome, or whether I should have slept on my side last night instead of my back. If you can, find something that lets you just take a break and regroup. Besides…all the worrying and the planning will still be there when you’re done :0)

]]> By: Jenny J. http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-16908 Jenny J. Fri, 23 Jul 2010 12:00:30 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-16908 I'm sorry you're worrying so much, Jen :(. I guess it must come with the baby territory - I hope you're able to find comfort soon. About unsolicited advice - I am so guilty of giving mine out all the time. It's a bad habit of mine, but it comes from a good place. I just can't stand seeing people upset,sad and/or suffering so I try to give advice about my expriences or what not....With that said, hang in there! (my unsolicited advice for the day) ;) I’m sorry you’re worrying so much, Jen :( . I guess it must come with the baby territory – I hope you’re able to find comfort soon.

About unsolicited advice – I am so guilty of giving mine out all the time. It’s a bad habit of mine, but it comes from a good place. I just can’t stand seeing people upset,sad and/or suffering so I try to give advice about my expriences or what not….With that said, hang in there! (my unsolicited advice for the day) ;)

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-16906 Jen Fri, 23 Jul 2010 11:49:12 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-16906 I like that reply! lol Because you said it exactly...I really want to try to find what works for ME. But if what I think will work does not, then I will be sure to ask for help... I like that reply! lol Because you said it exactly…I really want to try to find what works for ME. But if what I think will work does not, then I will be sure to ask for help…

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-16905 Jen Fri, 23 Jul 2010 11:47:51 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-16905 Your reply yesterday was great! I reached out on my blog to discuss something. That's totally different then..."hey your having a kid? Let me tell you how I did things and you should too!" lol even before I asked. Yes, I have to remember to stand firm w/ The Captain. I'm not the biggest people pleaser, so I guess that will help. Plus I have a big mouth lol Your reply yesterday was great! I reached out on my blog to discuss something. That’s totally different then…”hey your having a kid? Let me tell you how I did things and you should too!” lol even before I asked.

Yes, I have to remember to stand firm w/ The Captain. I’m not the biggest people pleaser, so I guess that will help. Plus I have a big mouth lol

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/being-emotional/comment-page-1/#comment-16904 Jen Fri, 23 Jul 2010 11:46:14 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=3883#comment-16904 yes I think I will be worrying forever..lol I think it's genetic! No..you don't overstep :) yes I think I will be worrying forever..lol I think it’s genetic!

No..you don’t overstep :)

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