Comments on: Am I Really That Horrible of a Wife? http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/ My Life as a Mrs. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 14:42:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Michaela http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1773 Michaela Sat, 16 Jan 2010 19:22:45 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1773 I don't think it means you're a bad wife at all. I think it means that your husband is a sweetheart who just wants you to be happy. I don’t think it means you’re a bad wife at all. I think it means that your husband is a sweetheart who just wants you to be happy.

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1772 Jen Sat, 16 Jan 2010 16:10:14 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1772 That is certainly a mouthful! I LOVE SITS! I find so many great blogs from there! I'll be sure to stop by yours! That is certainly a mouthful! I LOVE SITS! I find so many great blogs from there! I’ll be sure to stop by yours!

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1771 Jen Sat, 16 Jan 2010 16:07:55 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1771 Thank you for your comment! We have been together for about 9 years now, but I guess we still sometimes get it wrong. I will admit I sometimes expect him to read my mind, but most of the time I will just say what I mean. I guess we just have to keep working at it! :) Thank you for your comment! We have been together for about 9 years now, but I guess we still sometimes get it wrong. I will admit I sometimes expect him to read my mind, but most of the time I will just say what I mean. I guess we just have to keep working at it! :)

]]> By: Rebecca http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1770 Rebecca Sat, 16 Jan 2010 16:00:10 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1770 Nuts. I forgot to say "Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest" (don't say that too fast or it will come out wrong, did you know that?) in my last comment. I was supposed to do that, because that's how I found your blog. :D Happy... Sharefest! ;) Nuts. I forgot to say “Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest” (don’t say that too fast or it will come out wrong, did you know that?) in my last comment. I was supposed to do that, because that’s how I found your blog.

:D Happy… Sharefest! ;)

]]> By: Rebecca http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1769 Rebecca Sat, 16 Jan 2010 15:56:09 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1769 I'm new here. HI. :D This post caught my eye because a.) I've been married for over 21 years now (OMG!OMG!OMG!), and b.) I read a post at someone else's blog that we "older women" (OMG!OMG!OMG!) should help out the younger women. Well, I don't know if I can help anybody a whole lot.... but when you're first married (like, the first 5-8 years is considered "first married" LOL), it takes awhile to get accustomed to each other. Yeah. I wouldn't freak out about this situation. Just keep on keepin' on. There's a proverb (31) that says "The heart of her husband safely trusts her, so he will have no lack of gain." Trust takes time, through a continual life of being truthful and trustworthy. Just keep being honest and open, and he'll get over his guilt of enjoying himself when you're not there. ;) I like your blog. :) I’m new here. HI. :D This post caught my eye because a.) I’ve been married for over 21 years now (OMG!OMG!OMG!), and b.) I read a post at someone else’s blog that we “older women” (OMG!OMG!OMG!) should help out the younger women.

Well, I don’t know if I can help anybody a whole lot…. but when you’re first married (like, the first 5-8 years is considered “first married” LOL), it takes awhile to get accustomed to each other. Yeah.

I wouldn’t freak out about this situation. Just keep on keepin’ on. There’s a proverb (31) that says “The heart of her husband safely trusts her, so he will have no lack of gain.” Trust takes time, through a continual life of being truthful and trustworthy. Just keep being honest and open, and he’ll get over his guilt of enjoying himself when you’re not there. ;)

I like your blog. :)

]]> By: Daphne http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1753 Daphne Fri, 15 Jan 2010 16:54:47 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1753 This used to happen to Donald and me (and I know about saying "nothing" when it's "something" too!). We got to the point where I told him, looking him straight in the eye "If something is wrong, I will tell you". And then I had to live it. It's still hard and I slip up sometimes, but he knows to check again with me only once. Then it's my responsibility to speak up. I don't expect him to read my mind and I don't read his. I'm sure the two of you will find a way to make it work. This used to happen to Donald and me (and I know about saying “nothing” when it’s “something” too!). We got to the point where I told him, looking him straight in the eye “If something is wrong, I will tell you”. And then I had to live it. It’s still hard and I slip up sometimes, but he knows to check again with me only once. Then it’s my responsibility to speak up. I don’t expect him to read my mind and I don’t read his. I’m sure the two of you will find a way to make it work.

]]> By: Jen http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1739 Jen Fri, 15 Jan 2010 04:15:02 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1739 Kathie you are right...I have to work on just saying what I mean...I will get it right someday. Kathie you are right…I have to work on just saying what I mean…I will get it right someday.

]]> By: MrsH2009 http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1738 MrsH2009 Fri, 15 Jan 2010 01:54:57 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1738 This happens to me all the time. I like my alone time and often dh doesn't believe me. He insists I'll be mad if he goes out, even when I want him to. This happens to me all the time. I like my alone time and often dh doesn’t believe me. He insists I’ll be mad if he goes out, even when I want him to.

]]> By: Kathie http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1736 Kathie Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:34:10 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1736 This has nothing to do with being a "good wife", it's about that mind reading stuff again. Say what you mean, and mean what you say ALWAYS and each of you will know what you are talking about. Poor Captain Hamster (that does have a ring to it!) has to use way too much brainpower trying to figure out what's going on. :) This has nothing to do with being a “good wife”, it’s about that mind reading stuff again. Say what you mean, and mean what you say ALWAYS and each of you will know what you are talking about. Poor Captain Hamster (that does have a ring to it!) has to use way too much brainpower trying to figure out what’s going on. :)

]]> By: andrew http://afterthealter.com/am-i-really-that-horrible-of-a-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1735 andrew Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:19:52 +0000 http://afterthealter.com/?p=2714#comment-1735 Let's just leave it at this, the idiot husband in question competed on the manliest team in the history of high school sports, synchronized swimming. Let’s just leave it at this, the idiot husband in question competed on the manliest team in the history of high school sports, synchronized swimming.

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